May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.
As Christians, I believe most of us are acquainted with Psalm 19:4, we endeavor to speak godly words and not words that do harm such as gossip and harsh words. Many times however, we should not speak, we should listen. I've noticed a listening problem lately.
The following statements were made by mature Christians to seriously ill people:
Well Norma, your head has a nice shape to it. (She was recovering from cancer and bald at the time.)
I hope you will not have surgery to remove the tumor, drink this juice it will cure you.
Don't go to doctors for _____ fill in the blank. Just pray.
I was sicker with cancer than you are now. (Spoken by a cancer survivor to someone who died of cancer a few weeks later.)
Joe, I understand your heart is failing, well let me tell you about _____, fill in the blank.
We've all said things we should not say in a multitude of circumstances, for example telling a child something your parents said to you and you swore as a teen when you were an adult you would never say it. We've all lashed out at loved ones. We've all gossiped at 1 time or another. We know when we need to repent and be quiet in most areas of conversation, but sadly many people don't know when to be a listening presence when they visit or call someone who is ill.
My friend Norma always says, "We have two ears and 1 mouth for a reason. We are to listen, love and pray."
Ask the Lord to show you if you are falling short when it comes to listening.